E-Counseling

To Cope With Unhealthy Marriage

unhealthy marriage leads to couple fighting

E-counseling, consultation, or advice, can help you cope with feelings related to an unhappy marriage. Learning to cope with an unhappy marriage or making positive choices for yourself about whether to leave or stay in a troubled marriage is very important for your health.

Headlines have been declaring that marriage is good for your health! That�s wonderful. But, what if you are not happy in your marriage? Is it still good for your health? The news is in on this and the answer is a resounding �NO!�

According to Web MD and CBS News �being in a bad marriage may actually be bad for the health of both spouses.�

Studies have shown that unhappy marriages can cause unhealthy stress which lead to high blood pressure. When couples are unhappy at home in their marriage, they may carry that stress with them all through the day, and into their offices or work environments. If the stress and tension persist for long periods of time, they have a very negative effect on health. Research has shown that stress has been linked to higher risk of heart disease, stroke, cancer and other medical problems. Stress from a bad marriage has been shown to have negative consequences for mental health, and lead to depression, and anger problems.

Personally, I cannot imagine living in a chronically bad marriage. When my husband and I have our occasional spats (or all out brawls!) I can feel my heart beating faster, my impulse control becomes very low, my thoughts become very irrational, and adrenalin is coursing through my body. I have said to my husband during these, shall we say, �challenging moments of our marriage,� that I get very sick to my stomach. When times have been very rough for us, as they are temporarily in all marriages�even healthy ones�I have felt like the stress was in my stomach and that I could see getting stomach cancer from it or something! In other words, when I fight with my husband it makes me feel stressed to the point of making me ill!

Now, to live in a marriage that is always bad would mean that a person or both parties might constantly feel that way, and I can�t even imagine how their bodies must feel. Negative emotional problems certainly affect the body and spirit.

E-Counseling can help individuals learn how to improve their thought processes, which leads to more positive thinking patterns, which in turn leads to better decision making. Good decision making skills are important when you are faced with what do about your unhappy marriage.

But, what to do if you�re caught in a bad marriage? I think there are several options:

� Accept that there is a serious problem

� Get marriage counseling or e-counseling and try to improve things

� Remember to pick your battles�don�t fight over every little thing

� Treat your spouse the way you would want to be treated

� Visualize and focus on how you want your life to be�Think positive thoughts. (positive thoughts and visualizing attract positive energy!)

� Try a marriage retreat

� If none of the above works separate

� You might have to divorce.

Read more about how unhappy marriages can ruin your health Check out the article on About.com. This article states that unhappy marriages can actually ruin your health and lists 7 health hazards of bad marriages. Unhappy are marriages are reported to be responsible for elevated hormones, increased physcial pain, gum disease, ulcers, and increased incidence of flu and common cold. Yikes! Better work on improving your marriage or else get some good medical insurance!

E-Counseling can help Cope with Unhappy Marriage