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Parenting Strategies
Working As A Team!It is very important that parents learn parenting strategies that will help them to be on the same page with each other and work together as a team and not against each other. This means working together to come up with parenting techniques that they can both agree on and support each other in enforcing those strategies.When parents have different parenting ideas about what rules are best for their children it can cause a great deal of tension between parents. Sometimes when parents have different ideas about what is the best way to handle problems with their children, they begin to just do things their own way without regard to the other parents. When parents do this they are undermining each other. When children see that their parents are not on the same page, and that they are undermining each other, those little rascals start to take advantage of parents! This is when you see children asking only Mom for bubblegum, because they know Dad thinks it is bad for their teeth but Mom will allow it. Or they ask only Dad for violent video games because they know Mom thinks those are not healthy, but Dad likes them too. When parents give in to this, and are not on the same page, it can cause a great deal of tension in the marriage. And even though the children might think they are getting away with something, in the end, they are left confused because they don’t really know what to believe in or not to believe in, and what the rules truly are. Children need to know what their household rules are without question. The only way they can truly know the rules is if Mom and Dad are on the same page about them. So, Moms and Dads, you need to sit together, and have a long talk. Identify what it is that you are disagreeing on. Discuss compromises. Create a set of household rules that you BOTH can agree upon and enforce. For example, maybe the children can have bubblegum as long as they brush their teeth afterwards. Or maybe they can have video games as long as they are rated E, and non-violent. Those are examples of compromises. Also, identify consequences for the children for the children that you BOTH agree upon and will enforce. And identify rewards for the children that you can agree up together for when you catch them being good! Parenting strategies where both parents are on the same page work the best! Good luck. Parenting Strategies Parenting Main Page
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